successful planning

It’s always good to at least attempt to define that which you are attempting to perform/ create/ whatever. Hypothesize.

It makes the whole doing process a lot easier. Right?

For example, on a camping trip in northern Michigan, three of my fav fellow tourists and I arrived at a place called  The Party Store.

Before exiting the coché my friend known here as YES says So, what’s the plan?

The rest of us start grumbling loudly:  Who needs a plan to walk into a convenient store?

Which technically was all that it was, but it was sort of convenient store you find in northern Michigan that is family owned, has a public bathroom with one toilet, sells pizza & popcorn & any sort of booze you could think to drink, plus an array of other items that could be used while being in the local area. It was also the only store with any sort of supplies above soda. We were also the first  to arrive from a party of more than 30.

My plan was to use the bathroom facilities to the greatest possible extent– and I did.

2+ hours later we finally met back up in the parking lot and went along our merry way. Technically, we got logassed.

What happened in those two hours is not worth discussing, I don’t even really remember to tell it.  I do feel strongly however, that the mere fact that each individual person in the party also used the bathroom to its greatest capacity may have had a hand in our short trip lasting so long.

The point is:  action without planning leads to chaos, confusion and failure. Action with planning could lead to success.

This post isn’t really about planning though, it’s about defining. Demonstrating to YOU that I do in fact have a plan.

So, let’s begin by reading this article: Why some women can’t reach vaginal orgasm during intercourse.

Be aware, there is at least one grammar error and I believe it’s in the first paragraph.)  It’s also written by a college student. Don’t ask me to get into that.

Note: It is not what I would consider a well written article. It does not exactly lay out a good argument, nor does it actually follow good format- BUT the subject matter is worth diving into.

[Also, I happened across it & it is April. In April,  wear BLACK on Thursday to signify that the violence must STOP.

Violence against women, children, men, animals, the environment (it is Earth Day month), people of a different race or culture, technology that doesn’t do as we please, in language, or even to our SELF first begins with what is held in our mind. ]

– this particular April works well for this campaign –

The violence stops once we acknowledge that what we hold to be true may not be true. To do so we: question it, dissect it, and allow the feelings of others to weigh in on our thoughts. Essentially, we work to gain understanding and live to act on it.

Lou Paget,  sex educator / sex expert.  Who is knowledgeable, sexy and sexual— states over and over that “you must know yourself FIRST.”

She says it numerous ways in a very frank manner so that you understand that there is also a purpose and function to being aware of yourself.

Read one of her books, you’ll probably dig it more than you dig this blog.  Pick any one that suits your fancy. It will be well worth it!

What she is really saying is: one must masturbate and gain an understanding of how the body derives pleasure, in order to gain satisfactory pleasure from someone else. I’m also not going to argue this point either.

To back up my points though, here is the line I gave in the Vagina Monologues:

VAGINA FACT

The clitoris is pure in purpose. It is the only organ in the body designed purely for pleasure. The clitoris is simply a bundle of nerves: 8,000 nerve fibers to be precise.

That’s a higher concentration of nerve fibers than is found anywhere else in the body. Including the fingertips, lips, and tongue, and it is TWICE… TWICE… TWICE the number (of nerves) in the penis.

Who needs a handgun when you’ve got a semiautomatic.

[WA- POW!]

The mic did in fact crap out for the rest of the performance after I gave this one Vagina Fact.

I’ll admit I’m a bit hesitant to BLOG about the clitoris and vagina’s. (People at work might look @ me funny).  That’s their problem though really. At least, that’s what I’ve decided.

It’s also the reason I’m writing Fantasy Worthy Men. Because even though I’m tired of talking- I realize that talking is necessary to get the thought process moving. Or vibrators vibing. : )

cutting edge of sexy

What I’m most concerned with is just making sure people are comfortable with SEX. Our own sexualities. Ourselves as sexual beings. In order for any of that to happen we must first and foremost be comfortable with our SELF.

And, I LOVE talking about SEX.

Doing it can be pretty good too! It isn’t always. At present I’m more keen on understanding my own thoughts and feelings toward SEX than I am having it.

Fantasy Worthy Men is an expression and exploration of my sexual self while abstaining from the actual act of SEX.

KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES

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