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 This blog is on pause. 

What exists on this site no longer accurately reflects who I am as a person. Nor does it cater directly to the interests of its writer, or of its readers.

Something is brewing beneath the surface. Critical mass is not too far off.

My intention when this project began was to enhance the mundane. My intention still remains.

Change has occurred in the sense that I am no longer seeking only to serve mySelf. Methods of projecting this more properly are currently undergoing careful scrutiny & creative enhancement. My words, thoughts & kitchen concoctions are for the many others who stand to benefit. This is no longer about me.

So, if you check-in here because you know me personally, are directed here by a business card, or happen to stumble upon this by way of search engine optimization– know that there is more to come. And, once it arrives it’s gonna make you say- WHOA!! : )

Before parting ways to dive deep into development, I’d like to share a piece of  insight:

The winds of change are upon us all. While the world around us may be likened to this blog in its inaccurate reflection of what truly exists- it is up to us as individuals & as a collective to seek out & to do that which makes us whole. Allow the winds to take you in a different direction. Be patient. Let go of anything that is no longer serving you. Know that what we hold in our hearts and in our mind is our reality exactly. Don’t put yourself down, especially when things go wrong. Make time to quiet down your own inner chitter chatter.  Listen to the voice inside of you. It exists so that it may guide you. Practice this alone & greatness will be obtained. And, when the road grows dark  hold strength in your heart. You will be lead into the light.  Walking the path is not easy but the pay-off will be rewarding endlessly. Faith is key!!

Thank you, Readers!! I do love you.

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P.S. This space may still be used for timely up-dates on career oriented activities.


In honor of the long awaited, highly anticipated, OMG it’s finally here:  2012!!

Let us take this opportunity to celebrate with a tip of the hat to creativity.





First up is Bjork & Nick Knight’s tribute to fashion’s late Lee Alexander McQueen.                           

Lee McQueen suffered the consequence of wrapping a noose around his neck. He lived his not too terribly long life to the max!! Pissing off most people in the fashion industry for refusing to make “Ready to Wear” clothing.

Mr. McQueen & Lady Bjork share an outlandish artistic ability. Neither one controls their creations. It’s what we call: UNINHIBITED.  Which makes for a damn good show.

Creativity is not having the power to make something happen. It is the ability to act as an open vessel for creations to flow through. 

What’s your median?

Oh, I prefer oil on canvas.

Very lovely, you?

I like gettin’ dirty with ceramics.

And you?

Who me?  Carly is my median.

You are the median. Stop to consider this for a moment. Realize how this is  one of those really funny, hard to find absolute truths. Without a creator there can be no creation.

Have you ever tried to force creativity? I have. One of my biggest frustrations as “a creative” is that nothing ever comes out the same as I imagine it to be in my brain. Not even a lion. Sigh.

Still. Moments of sheer pleasure occur whenever I sit down and simply let it happen. Which in itself can be a task. Or, it can be a meditative ritual habit that soothes the mind & calms the nerves. Who really knows what it is?

All of my best ever drawings began as scribbles on paper.

Note: Scribbling, or doing anything that encompasses letting it out, is a great way to jump start creativity to flow from you. It’s like candy & flowers, yankin’ the chain, foreplay or, placing a piece of cheese outside of the little mousey hole. Psychiatrists use this to trick patients into opening up. Really disturbed people do it without any thought as a way to get that shit out! Hence my scribbling on paper.

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During my Pure Michigan stay I toyed with the notion that everyone has a creative talent.

By this I mean that each&every human being on this planet has come fully equipped with the innate capacity to creatively express. Somehow.

Dwelling in the Land of People Primarily Over Fifty showed me that given the opportunity to explore & connect with the inner Self, people blossom.

Often these opportunities came via an ‘Adult Education Class.’ After the whole gettin’ a job, gettin’ married, child rearin’ years had passed.  All of these people had beautiful works, smiles on their faces & songs in their heart. Really, they did!!

Most folk continued on with their creative work simply to enhance la joie de vivre. Some even became famous for it.

The creative process is not necessarily simple. That’s not my argument here. It is however obtainable.

Creativity can be in the kitchen, in the way one ties their shoes, how they make others feel while in their presence. Or, it can be found elsewhere. Like in the way you fix up an old bike.

For further discussion on the creative process from a highly credible source here is a recent interview with Terry Gilliam. Director: Monty Python, 12 Monkeys, and Brazil.

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It’s important to have fun, keep consistent, and to be easily recognizable.

Especially, in reference to events!!

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Dandyism: a literary and  artistic style of the latter part of the 19th century marked by artificiality & excessive refinement.  A well dressed man. A fop.

Devendra Banhart

Dandyism was Steven’s response to the post on Sexy Suits, written in his honor.

At first, I felt that he was put off by the post & that the word dandy was in reference to being characterized as homosexual.

Not true! Necessarily. Dandyism is in reference of men, who take extra particular care to their way of dress. In research for this post I learned that a more current representation of this is Hippie Glam.

Devendra Banhart shown here, is an example of this.

The boho/hippie look certainly appears to be making its presence known once again in our culture. I feel that it was just here.

Which is a surprising juxtaposition to this dandy little trend that we’re seeing. Especially, when combined with the fact that cloaks are HUGE right now. Why?!? Is this a surprising juxtaposition?

Dressing to a meticulous degree, or to dawn a cloak is to give off an aura of sophistication. Try wearing a cloak for a day and see for yourself just what your are able to do: not much.

Hippies on the other hand dress for practicality. Or so that their skirts will swirl when dancing.

The current trend of dressing up, makes me think that people are tired of working hard, tired of being broke and just plain damn tired of being tired.

Which is totally cool with me. I’ve been holding down the sophisticated style this whole time. I never quite understood why hipsters wanted to dress like they were bums.

For me, it’s about the future. Dress for what you’d like to be, for how you’d like to be.

That goes for everything, not just clothes.

Call upon the future, don’t dwell.

It just might get you somewhere!

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To actualize goals:

  • Write them down
  • Talk about them
  • Take action
  • Hustle
  • Document challenges
  • Make adjustments along the way
  • & Celebrate small victories!!!

This Self Promo Project is turning into a full time job. Although, the proof is in the pudding– I’m already seeing the benefits of my efforts.

Question: If you could see me do anything what would that be?

Please leave word.

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Meet Chuck Bass

Dear friend–  Steven, has been talking a lot lately about changing up his look.

The other night while sitting in a dimly lit, local watering hole, I saw a glimpse of Chuck Bass in Steven & thought: WOW! There’s real opportunity here!

Of course, Steven, whose biggest influence is Carl Jung had no idea what Gossip Girl, or who Chuck Bass is. We like him better that way anyhow.

The only show that I make a point to watch each week is Gossip Girl.

Why? Because it’s sexy.

Each & every ensemble that blesses my television screen is absolutely spectacular! Not to mention the drama. Oh! The Drama!

The show itself has had a major impact on the way girlies in America dress themselves, I’m sure of it. Simply do a Google search for Gossip Girl fashion blogs. You’ll quickly get a clear sense of its impact.

Last season, I attended a Chicago Gossip Girl Blog launch & premier party. The blog was designed almost in protest of all of the fashion blogs that have popped up around the show & was intended to simply be a discussion forum for fans of the show.a.k.a. Ed Westwick

[I would not suggest attending a party to watch the season premier of your favorite show].

Gossip Girl is my weekly planned alone time. It’s also TiVo’d, so commercial set-backs are eliminated.

Watching football with a group of people might be fine for those who watch football. But, it’s a terrible thing to mentally drown out noise from the bar & to move your head around in an effort to avoid late comers while your favorite show is on-screen.

Steven’s expressed ideas about picking a character to be and to be that character for a period of time. A good idea! (Potentially pricey).

He’s also expressed intentions of professionalizing his appearance. Something that apparently left his brain as quickly as it came. Last I checked, that idea no longer applied.  Very sad.

Steven is merely the inspiration for this post. And, a damn good excuse to spend some time sifting through the internet in search of sexy pictures of Chuck Bass a.k.a. Ed Westwick. Really, one shouldn’t need an excuse. He is a Fantasy Worthy Gent! [Though sometimes a spark helps to get one moving in a good direction].

black is always sexy

According to some of the Spring/Summer 2011 runway shows I’ve seen recently the Power Suit is back in business babay! WOO HOO!

Only this time, it’s not just for men. Actually, Alexander McQueen has women wearing the suit of power. The soundtrack to the show makes it worth watching more than once.

The power suit, does not have to include shoulder pads, nor does it have to be strictly dark colors. Vibrant colors of darker shades is a must.

Power suits should be worn by men & women alike– After checking in on what’s to come, I couldn’t help but think the sort of respect Hillary Clinton would have drummed up had she worn a power suit vs. a pant suit.

The necessary point to grab from this argument, is that it’s time to exude a true sense of power. Let’s learn to be chic.

According to Chuck Bass & Henry Miller power = being Fearless.

Back to the story at hand…

It’s great that a character dressed as Chuck Bass, has decided to grace America’s pop-culture.

He is just what young men need to know that it is perfectly OKAY to get away from the gray.

I love grey! Still, it’s kinda boring & actually quite sad. To see a sea of it on a regular basis is enough to drive a person to wear pink!

He’s also a good example that men can have fun with their wardrobe, just as women do!

Harper Bazaar SEXY!

All too often, men are stuck in the same pant & button down routine. It’s boring!!

From a rhetorical perspective, it makes me think that men are oppressed when it comes to being accepted by fashion.

Though, if you look out for the shapely shorts men will be wearing this Spring, you’ll get a glimpse of what appears to be a Manly Fashion Revolution. Ya, man leg!

This look,  has really already been fully accepted by plenty of men. Many of whom ride bikes, love their own hot asses and have decided to cut off their skinny jeans into short-shorts, so that the world can have a full on gander at their rockin’ bods.

Clemence Poesy

Of course, if you have a rockin’ bod, than you should show it off! This gal here is Clemence Poesy. French actor & model who had a guest appearance on Gossip Girl, earlier this season.

She’s the sort of good lookin’ lady who doesn’t always look fabulous. Not that she’s unkempt, but from certain angles her good looks vanish. Actually, she’s the sort of looker who looks slightly different each time you see her.

These pictures have been added simply for the sake of looking at them….


still gorgeous, but see the difference?


Steven, is possibly the only man in my world who is both straight & willing to move beyond the typical man look. I know plenty of men willing to dress up like women & usually out-do me in putting together a flashy evening ensemble, but those men don’t count.

Straight men need to be given the tools to step out and to play with their wardrobe. Hipster boys don’t count either!

I am a big fan of the deep cut V-neck shirt, but only if the guy wearing it has the chest hair to back it up. Most don’t.

What I really would like to push here is well-dressed men.

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Men who will play dress-up just as good as any girl!!!

What I would give to see a reddish brown suit on the street…


By good, I mean with confidence. By confidence, I mean to do so comfortably.

Women are instructed to move away from the business look on date night.

However, it would be astonishing if a guy were to move beyond the simply button down, striped & collared, and added on a suit jacket.

This has been done, yes. I typically see it on men in the mid 30’s + range. Rarely, is the suit jacket intended for evening wear. If it is, the jacket is black velvet. [Wah, wah]. That only lasts for so long…

Once, I caught a real live glimpse of a blue velvet suit coat via. Axis of Evelyn. Actually, I played a strong hand in selling that to the husband of a major local gallery owner. He looked large & in charge with this jacket on, even wearing white washed jeans! Plus, it was right before Christmas.

[Blue velvet has been an awesome addition to the holidays in the past few years, it’s really really great for NYE!]

A hint of 70's

Suits, suits & more suits…

Another way to sexy up a man, is to throw on a bandanna. It’s been a growing trend in the hippy world for both men & women. This pic here shows how you can class it up.

Change up that tie for a bandanna in the summer!



While my brainstorming process is coming along nicely, I thought that to stay in the habit I’d give you all a taste of what I’m getting into when not thinking about this blog, my professional image, the CME brand, or anything other work related.


Colors closely resemble what we can expect to see this Spring/Summer

Can’t work hard all the time.

This guy gets me

I’ve also taken to reading the Tropic of Capricorn, the story Henry Miller wrote after he became the sort of person we all wish to be.

Lady Taste Makers or Fashion Dictators?

Still, as no matter how far off I wander I can’t help but to notice just how greatly all of this is connected.